Anxiety and what can help
When we worry, we can get caught up in anxiety and magnifying the risks to ourselves. We think about the worst that could happen and tell ourselves that it will happen, catastrophising, in other words. It’s difficult to think rationally about what can help when caught in that whirl of panic that can arise.
What can help?
What can help, first, is to find whatever way works for you to calm yourself. This might be; focusing on breathing slowly, raising your eyes to the outside world, moving your body, maybe yoga, sport or just a walk in the fresh air.
When you have slowed your thoughts a little, it can help to capture them by writing them down – just for you. It doesn’t have to make sense to anyone else. The very act of getting your thoughts and worries down on paper can help you to sort them out a little and tame them.
What else can I do?
Maybe you can then think for a little about the actual risk of your fears happening. How likely is it that of all the things that could happen, the worst will actually happen. You can also ask yourself, to think that if the worst did happen, how would you deal with it?
Thinking about that won’t make the worst happen, but it will help you to deal with your worries. Making a plan of action about how to deal with your response can put you in charge and stop the worries getting out of hand.
Making a plan, thinking of what you can do to keep yourself safe really helps. If for example you’re worried about the relaxation of lockdown, remember what you can do for yourself. You can stay home where possible, or avoid crowded places. Time your shopping for when it’s quiet, wear a face covering outside, keep your distance from others. Wash your hands regularly and clean the things that you touch before you can wash your hands, like the car door handles and steering wheel.
You can take back control over your worries and this model can apply to other concerns like social anxiety and phobias. We can help anxiety, with individual or couples counselling. If you would like to know more, please get in touch for our initial no-obligation assessment consultation.